Answers to Anons | Trigger Warning: diet talk, eating disorders, self hate, etc.
Anonymous asked you: i felt like this is the only safe place for this rant so here it goes. i have been big since second grade. been teased about it since then. it took me getting rejected by the only guy i loved in high school to drive me to the size i am now. but then i got to college. and i found there is a whole group of guys who find curves beautiful. so i just wanted to leave with this message for the younger big girls out there. never give up. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL
Answer: Sometimes the solution to a bad love life is a change of venue. It’s okay to seek out people who are attracted to the way you look. But remember, never rely on the approval of others to feel beautiful or worthy. Thanks for sharing.
Anonymous asked you: This week, I stumbled upon a pro-ana blog and upon reading through it, I suddenly felt so bad about myself. It’s been days since I’ve been crying. Ever since I was 14 I’ve been struggling with my weight as my motto was always “FAT = UGLY”. I have low self-esteem & I cut my wrists. Scars are still visible. I am 23 now and being diagnosed with hormonal problem I had to lose weight. I used to be size 16 now 10. Your blog helped me recover but when I saw that blog, I feel ugly all over again.
Answer: Maaannnnn fuck that pro-ana/thinspo bullshit! Don’t let the ideas of those people undo all of your hard work. Recovery takes bravery, dedication and courage. It’s not easy. Don’t let them strip you of those good traits inside of you. Whether you’re size 16 or 10, love yourself, take care of yourself and don’t let anyone ever convince you that you’re somehow inadequate. Forget that you even saw that blog. Surround yourself with positivity and remind yourself of the reasons why you recovered in the first place.
Anonymous asked you:
I love how you guys celebrate so many sizes and types. It’s frustrating to see people argue about whether size 12 is fat or not, when really we should all just be concerned about loving ourselves.
I love how you guys celebrate so many sizes and types. It’s frustrating to see people argue about whether size 12 is fat or not, when really we should all just be concerned about loving ourselves.
Answer: It seems like a waste of time to argue about something so trivial. I have no words for how awful that ‘conversation’ must be. You have the right idea, anon! Thanks for sharing.
Anonymous asked you: How do I speak to my mother, a bulimia survivor, about body positivity? and remind her that her weight says nothing about her worth in the world?
Answer: I think you have the right words, it’s just a matter of how you approach the subject. Be aware of her mood or state of mind. You don’t want to trigger any negative emotions or bad memories for her. Also, sometimes it’s hard for parents to take advice from their kids, so try not to come off as condescending or rude. Although, I’m not really getting that vibe from you. If you need tips on what to talk about, use the advice given on this blog. Print them out and use them as note cards. http://dailyfatspiration.tumblr.com/tagged/post Good luck :)
Anonymous asked you: I have the word fat self harmed on my stomach from about five months ago does that mean I’m ugly? And how do I stop feeling guilty about it?
Answer: Even though you’ve harmed yourself and despite the scars and pain, you are NOT ugly. I’m not an expert on issues concerning guilt from self harm but I think that you should seek help from either medical professionals or a support system. And let the past go. You shouldn’t feel shame or guilt for something that you did in the past because those actions simply cannot be changed or undone. All you can do is move on and make progress towards stopping your self harm. Realize that fat is not bad. The way society perceives fat is the problem.
