Answers to Anons | Trigger Warning: diet talk, eating disorders, self hate, etc.
Answer: Sometimes the solution to a bad love life is a change of venue. It’s okay to seek out people who are attracted to the way you look. But remember, never rely on the approval of others to feel beautiful or worthy. Thanks for sharing.
Answer: Maaannnnn fuck that pro-ana/thinspo bullshit! Don’t let the ideas of those people undo all of your hard work. Recovery takes bravery, dedication and courage. It’s not easy. Don’t let them strip you of those good traits inside of you. Whether you’re size 16 or 10, love yourself, take care of yourself and don’t let anyone ever convince you that you’re somehow inadequate. Forget that you even saw that blog. Surround yourself with positivity and remind yourself of the reasons why you recovered in the first place.
I love how you guys celebrate so many sizes and types. It’s frustrating to see people argue about whether size 12 is fat or not, when really we should all just be concerned about loving ourselves.
Answer: It seems like a waste of time to argue about something so trivial. I have no words for how awful that ‘conversation’ must be. You have the right idea, anon! Thanks for sharing.
Answer: I think you have the right words, it’s just a matter of how you approach the subject. Be aware of her mood or state of mind. You don’t want to trigger any negative emotions or bad memories for her. Also, sometimes it’s hard for parents to take advice from their kids, so try not to come off as condescending or rude. Although, I’m not really getting that vibe from you. If you need tips on what to talk about, use the advice given on this blog. Print them out and use them as note cards. http://dailyfatspiration.tumblr.com/tagged/post Good luck :)
Answer: Even though you’ve harmed yourself and despite the scars and pain, you are NOT ugly. I’m not an expert on issues concerning guilt from self harm but I think that you should seek help from either medical professionals or a support system. And let the past go. You shouldn’t feel shame or guilt for something that you did in the past because those actions simply cannot be changed or undone. All you can do is move on and make progress towards stopping your self harm. Realize that fat is not bad. The way society perceives fat is the problem.