Theme By: Destroyer / Sleepless

Answers: Contains some triggering content

1.) Anonymous  asked: I have a question - there was a recent documentary that interviewed 2 San Diego women about their experience being bigger ladies. I cannot remember what the name of the film is - would you or any of your followers know? Thanks :)
-  Answer: I haven’t heard of it. I hope someone else has. I’ll look into it.
2.) Anonymous  asked: I’m 19, 160cm and 70kg - that’s 5’3” amd 155 lb. I just feel like I’m too fat to be ‘normal’ beautiful, but too not-fat to be big and beautiful. I feel like I’m stuck in the middle, where I’m just big enough and just small enough to be not attractive to anybody, let alone myself. I know you’re not a confession blog, I just… felt the need to say it.
- Answer: Calm down lovie. Stop trying to force yourself into a box. Just exist. You’ll be happier when you do. 
3.) Anonymous  asked: I feel insecure about my body because I want to be a dancer. I’m not “fat”, I have average body, the Slavic type, but it makes me feel weird to dance like that when dancers are supposed to be thin.
-Answer:  Dancers aren’t exclusively thin. Body type doesn’t make  a person a  dancer. The fact that you dance does. You don’t have to be thin to enjoy or be good at dancing. Just because you don’t fit the mold, doesn’t mean you shouldn’t chase your dream. Your body is not a deterrent to the things you can accomplish. 

4.) Anonymous asked: I submitted my story back when I had a blog. I had to delete my blog, but I just wanted to let you know that I still visit this blog daily & I even post some of the fatspirations on my Facebook for my friends who are struggling and for myself or for anyone who is just having a low day about how they look. Thank you so much. I cried myself to sleep last night over my tummy & stretchmarks & this blog just reminded me that it’s perfectly fine to be a curvy girl in this world. You give me hope.
-Answer: Awww! Thanks for spreading the word/message! I’m glad you enjoy this blog. My heart is overflowing with joy and love.
5.) Anonymous asked you: Is there a movement against the whole “Men must be muscular” ideal that pops up pretty much just as much as the “Photoshop thin” ideal?
-Answer: I’m sure there is. I’d be more than happy to look more into it.

6.) Anonymous asked you: I keep on trying to be a Positive guy but I can’t. I feel guilty when I eat, I don’t like eating, eating makes me feel sick, and I’m always stressing over my weight. What can I do about this?
- Answer: First, develop a healthy relationship with food. Eating is normal, natural, and nothing to be ashamed of. We do it because we need to and because we want to. Both are good reasons. You won’t feel better about your body until you stop viewing food as a source of guilt. Because it’s not.  You might have a medical condition if food makes you physically ill. See a doctor about that.  I hope that helps.

7.) Anonymous asked you: How can a transgender person stay positive about their body?
- Answer: I consider myself a trans-ally. I stand in solidarity with trans* persons and I would never attempt to co-opt their movement or struggles.  Because I’m only an ally, I recognize that I can never begin to know or assume to fully understand the experiences or struggles that come with being trans*. What this means is that I don’t feel fully qualified to answer this question. However, I do feel obligated to give you an answer. I’m 100% sure that my answer will be crap: You should recognize that the body you were born in, doesn’t define you. At all.  How others see or view your body is irrelevant. The body you exist in serves its purpose: to carry your soul, thoughts, and ideas. Whether you consider your body a work in progress or not, I hope those things help.

8.) Anonymous asked you: I see your blog, and other wonderful body appreciation blog’s, and I want to love myself. But then I see people that are a size 12 that think they’re big and I fall completely apart. I’m a size 24, and I feel so disgusting…
-Answer: Stop comparing yourself to others. If you share the same body issues with someone  despite your size differences, embrace each other. Stop drawing lines of distinction. Stand in solidarity with each other. 

9.) kitsunepup asked you: On your answers, I agreed with all of it except for “flip them off” because I once did this to someone who was shouting insults at me and my friend and they followed us home with bats shouting that thy were going to kick our asses, luckily we walked faster and happened to have pepperspray, so there wasn’t any actual confrontation, but it could have gone badly. People can dish this shit out, but if you respond negatively, it can, unfortunately, get violent :(
-Answer: I’m sorry. That was reckless on my part. 

10.) Anonymous asked you: The lyrics “Them stretch marks on ya’ hips are just bungee cords bringing you back from ya’ hips.” — Do they give you confidence or make you insecure? In short, are they offensive, good or bad, y’know?
-Answer: I‘ll have to hear it in context. Sounds neutral to me though. Looking into it.

Posted: Sun February 5th, 2012 at 7:33am
Notes: 3
  1. tackyandcream said: Re: Anon 1 - maybe it’s “The Fat Body (In)visible” riotsnotdiets.com/post/…
  2. dailyfatspiration posted this