To the 23yrold anon
I know many people have posted on this topic but it can be a pretty common occurrence when you are fat. I am 22 and just got into my first relationship 5 months ago. Before that, pretty much nothing. I know while you’re in that period in your life, it seems like it will last forever but it is just that, a period. a phase. a portion of a whole. it doesn’t define you and try not to let it make you sad. In retrospect, I am so thankful I didn’t have luck dating when I was younger. It has given me the time to learn about myself and what I deserve. I know who I am and can contribute to a relationship positively. I’ve learned from the mistakes of my friends throughout our younger years and now, the man I’m with treats me like a queen and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
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Having big thighs runs in my family. Even when I weighed around 130-140 I still had bigger thighs. I’m still learning to embrace them. <3 Size 14.
Be proud of your bodies! ;)
My skinny boyfriend loves my body.
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Messages to the 23 year old anon:
tombtrash asked you: I’m 280lbs and a size 18. I grew up without boyfriends, people crushing on me, dates, dates to dances, kisses, anything. I was twenty when I had my first kiss and he turned into my first (and current) boyfriend. It’s tough to not let it get to you, I know- But to the anon without human connection, you must love yourself when it feels like no one else does. I promise you are so worth the love and waiting will be so worth it when the right person walks into your life and wants to stay. <3
laughatlyfe asked you: The 23yr old, never been kissed/never had a relationship. I could have wrote that myself. I am in almost the same situation and what I found is that you have to love yourself first and you have to have confidence in who you are as a person and you cant let someone else define your worth. When the right person comes along you will know and he will love you for who you are no matter what you look like on the outside. Embrace yourself and someone special will come along the way, I know its hard. :)
Anonymous asked you: To the 23-year-old anon who’s never had a relationship: Don’t despair. You’re not alone. I’ve never had a real relationship either. But please, don’t do what I did. Don’t have a no-strings-attached (yeah, right) fling with some random guy because you think, “I don’t deserve this, so I’d better take it while I’ve got the chance.” I realize now that yes, I am overweight, but no, that doesn’t mean I’m not beautiful. That doesn’t mean I don’t deserve a loving relationship. I do, & you do, too. :)
Answer to anon [tw depression, self hate]
Answer: Most of us on this blog have had those feelings before. Shit…I was at that place almost a year ago. If you’d just stop letting those negative feelings and perceptions influence your life, you can see how truly beautiful you are. I don’t need to see you to know that.
Sammeh. 19 years old. Indiana. Size 18.
I was feeling really down today and I guess as a self pity thing I typed Fat in the tumblr search, but instead of seeing a bunch of hate I Found alot of positive blogs. Including this one<3 You helped me to feel better and more positive. Every body is beautiful. Thank you
Thank you!
Anonymous Asked: To the anon earlier: Don't be upset that you've never had "something" with someone. Don't ever sell yourself short because you feel like things are taking too long. While I respect and support sexual openness, I also support not doing something for any reason but your own. Don't just take anything; you are special. You are you. While that may seem like a pointless platitude, it is not. You are the only you. And that's important. Really important. Everything you go through is important, even thisThis!
Anonymous Asked: I'm going to ask this question anon because I'm embarrassed by it. I'm a 23 year old girl, size 22, and I have never been in a relationship. Never been kissed. Never had anything. Boys have never shown interest in me, and even now, I'm always just the friend. What is some advice to break this lifetime in the shadows?Unfortunately, there are a lot of shallow assholes out there in the world who judge people based upon physical exteriors. While those people are allowed their feelings, it is best to ignore them and move on. Don’t let yourself get caught up over the fact that someone doesn’t like your body or want to be your boo. Rejection hurts, but you have to respect their decision to reject you. Recognize that just because you haven’t had those experiences, doesn’t mean you are somehow less of a person or less worthy of anything. It all comes down to maintaining a healthy self image, putting your mating call out there, not limiting yourself socially because of your body, and being patient. I hope that helps, lovie.
SHOUT OUT TO ALL THE GIRLS WITH FAT STOMACHS AND STRETCH MARKS!
You can’t see my collarbone and I love it!
Being a big girl is fucking wonderful!
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I’m so tired of people messaging me, telling me that I’m “normalizing fatness”. This is a message to you haters: Kiss our normal, fat asses!
Shared Story: Healthy
Submitted by argiopeaurantia!
I’m a healthy 180~ lbs.
Some would say that having a 32” waist means that I’m a waste. Some would say I’m abnormal, lazy, gluttonous, and a gelatinous mass that isn’t worth being called beautiful.
To those I would like to say that I love my body more than they can ever love theirs. I take care of myself and give my body what it desires and have never been in better shape in my life, even if it is round.
Every stretch mark, every little vein, every dimple is loved.
My body is my temple and I treat it as such: lavishly, extravagantly, and with great respect.
