Right! Thank you for this message! I wrestle with being mean or rude to people because I think I’m a nice person in general, but honestly those people who shame and police bodies do not deserve my kindness or good regard. They need their feelings hurt.
Anonymous asked: So today, I thought of an idea: I want to get an inspiring tattoo on a place that I’m not very confident about, so that whenever I see that place, I smile instead of feeling ashamed or sad. But I’m not sure what I could get a tattoo of. Any ideas? Also, I’d like to share this idea so that maybe others can take it as well. (: Thanks for your time, everyone. <3
- Our Answer: Hmmm I don’t know. I don’t know specific circumstances of your life, thus I don’t know any personal details about you. So I don’t feel qualified to advise you on what to tattoo on your body. I think my idea would be painfully generic like ’Love>Hate’ or something equally as lame. Maybe my dear followers can help?
Anonymous asked:I just really need to vent out [[-before I go on, I’ll say that there may be triggers in this post-]] I’m a UK size 24/over 18st. Most of the time I feel great, but at the moment I feel so awful. I have an eating disorder (compusive overreating) but nobody seems to take it sriously because, of course, you can’t possibly have an eating disorder if you’re fat /sarcasm. I desperately want to lose some weight just so I can feel 100% confident in myself. I don’t show it, but society is killing me.
- Our Answer: Fuck society. You don’t owe anything to anyone. You don’t have to justify yourself to anyone, nor do you have an obligation to educate them on their ignorance. Their words have no real effect on your life. Focus on creating a better relationship with food and happiness will come.
Anonymous asked:For the person who is bulimic, you need to be aggressive. Not in a mean way, but in a way that shows that you’re trying you best for your health. If someone says ‘You’re so skinny - take it!’ don’t give in, keep stressing your excuse. If they can’t understand that you simply do not want the food, then you need to be straight up and tell them you’re watching your health. If absolutely necessary, take the food and give it to friends you know that would enjoy it. That’s what I usually have done!
- Our Answer: This seems like a sufficient answer to a question I felt I had no business attempting to answer. Thank you.
Submitted by germworm!
I’m 20, I wear a size 22 in pants and weigh more than my boyfriend. I’ve been large-but-not-so-in-charge for years, until one day I realized bullies were right when they said I was fat. No I don’t mean in a negative context, I mean that one day the fat insults stopped hitting me like a ton of bricks and started hitting me like air. Of course I’m fat! So what? I’m still confident, loud, and ridiculous! My weight has nothing to do with who I am, or what I’m cut-out to be.
When someone calls me fat, I smile and say “Yeah, and?”
It’s never too late for the insults to feel like air.
Friend drew me as a Homestuck God Tier (basically, once you get to a high enough level in the game you become a god, with your powers determined by your personality.) I was so grateful she kept me fat instead of “thinning me” like many people try to do with themselves. I must say, I make a fine fat god! :D
submitted by mistcover! This is cute!
Thank you <3
Submitted by starsoldphotographs
Hiya :) I’m Ellie. So, I don’t go on Tumblr much anymore; mainly because I got so sick of seeing pro-ana blogs. My dash seemed flooded with “thinsporational” thigh gaps, jutting ribs and hipbones, girls glorifying skeletal figures etc. It just got so damn depressing, and even worse - I started to feel the pressure myself. I hated being a healthy size, and knowing I was letting the pressure get to me made me hate myself even more… So, sensibly, I got the hell out of Tumblr for a while! However, even now, I always check this blog for updates, and I just wanted you to know how happy it makes me that there are people like you out there who actually use the internet to combat insecurities, not just make them worse. Honestly, I started to lose faith in people thanks to all the inferred hate and bullying and pressure the internet seemed to throw at girls like me just for being the way I was born. I started to believe no one could ever find me attractive the way I am for christ’s sake! The fact that there are people who care so much about how it all affects us that they set up a blog like this just makes me feel so relieved, and for once, accepted. So thank you so much. This one blog has cancelled out a whole lot of hate. Have a brilliant christmas <3 xxx
submitted by nooneisfree-untilallarefree
confidence is what matters!
i’ve had a lot of problems with self esteem, and definetly didnt accept my body for the way that is. i used to be a petite girl althrough out my childhood, and when i went to jail i gained a lot of weight… and when i came out , i was very self concious. i couldnt fit into half my clothes. people were commenting on how much weight i put on, which just made me even more insecure. i still havent lost any of the weight, i’ve actually just put on more over the years. i wouldnt wear certain clothes, and i did the whole ” hey lets strave myself so i get skinny ” thing. my thighs rub together, and im bigger than most girls my age. i have love handles, strechmarks and a chubby stomach. im definetly not a size zero, or a salad kind of girl.
i started dating a guy , and i always felt awkard being bigger than him . he’s tiny compared to me. i thought sex with him would just be awkard. and for so long i felt insecure around him. but now i accept my body for the way it is. come to find out he loves the fact i’m not small. i dont feel ashamed when he touches my stomach anymore. or if he catches a glimpse of my body when im changing clothes. all that matters is that he loves me for who i am, and thinks im beautiful regardless of my flaws, and that im healthy! this goes out to everyone out there, not just girls; NEVER be ashamed of your body, it doesnt matter what size your waistline is, or how flabby your thighs are, because confidence is what matters. fuck what the media defines as beauty, its all a scam. you’re beautiful just the way you are, each and everyone one you.