Answers to Anons [tw: body shaming, self hate, eating disorders]
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I’m glad you enjoy this blog. I’m glad this blog has been a part of your journey :)
seeing all the beautiful people on this blog is really inspiring. i may not be plus size, since i’m about a UK 10, but i’ve been called ‘fatty’ all through my younger years, had people make fun of my thighs and butt, and my body shape in general. i like the way that this blog tries to teach acceptance of any size. it’s just a shame gorgeous people are undervalued because they’re fat. thanks for an amazing blog :)
It’s no problem. Thanks for the feedback :)
Hi I just had to let you know this. I’m about a size six, not fat at all. But I didn’t think so for years. I hated myself and thought I was absolutely the most the hideous thing on the planet which, as it often does, led to starving, cutting, purging, etc. I’ve been working hard on recovery for a while now, and I just wanted to say that your blog has made me a better person. I always used to think fat was the worst thing I could be. You blog helped me recover and grow up. Thank you <3.
I’m honored and flattered that you look to this blog as a part of your recover. I wish you the best of luck on the rest of your journey :)
Iam a fat Asian girl, and unfortunately, being in Asia, probably 99% of the population still believe that fat = ugly,unhealthy,worthless. I’ve been told on by everyone and their mothers, my friends and even my family that I look hideous because of my size. I have struggles to brush off those comments all of my life but I think it’s getting to me hard. I do shun away the thoughts of purging and self-harm but I’m no where close to being okay. What can help me get away from all the negativity?
I’m sorry it took me so long to respond. It is very tough when society and culture constructs you as being worthless because of your body. Do what you have to in order to preserve your well-being. If that means cutting negative people out of your life, then so be it. It is not selfish to put yourself first. It’s also okay to tell people off. You are not worthless because of your body and you deserve respect. It’s okay to tell this to people.
I’ll be posting more fatspirations and answers your questions tomorrow. Good night :)
I've been perusing this blog for the about half an hour now and I just want to say THANK YOU for putting it together. It's brilliant, and very empowering. I've finally started accepting all 245+ pounds of glorious transfag that make up my physical form in this world, and it's great to see that people are learning to accept themselves in similar ways. Self hate got me nowhere good, but by loving myself I'm already making leaps and bounds to a happier, healthier point of view. God bless! <3@iknowwhoholdstomorrow
Wow, thank you for this message. There are no words to describe the emotions that I’m feeling. It’s great to read about the impact this blog has. Seriously, THANK YOU :)
I’m so fucking sick of people being all offended at fatness. I am sick of people expecting fat people to hide themselves away out of public sight, never being seen at the shops, at the gym, in the workplace, on the street. I’ve had enough of people complaining that they saw someone’s fat arse, arms, belly, thighs, whatever. I’m tired of being told that fat people should cover our bodies, wear dark, minimising, flattering clothing. That we shouldn’t be seen in leggings, tights, sleeveless tops, short shirts, tight jeans, swimsuits and short skirts. I’m sick of fat people being told they should starve themselves, never eat. I’m royally fucking fed up with being expected to hide myself away like I’m something to be ashamed of. I’m over being hated simply because I exist in a fat body.
I got three new dresses for Christmas. They each look fabulous on me. The problem? Nowhere to wear them, since they're dressy dresses, not casual. Anyone have any suggestions? I haven't been on a date in over a year, so that's pretty much out.@Anonymous
If you have the funds to do so:
- Go to a play, opera or musical
- Host a tea party
- Go out to dinner with your friends
- Go to high tea at a fancy hotel
- Take selfies alone because that’s always fun
- Bodies are hairy. No matter the gender, your face will have hair and that is more than okay.
- Your butthole is going to have some hair too. And maybe your nipples. And your tummy. And where ever else.
- Stretch marks. Those are a thing. Everyone gets ‘em. If you don’t, you probably don’t have skin.
- Vaginas smell. Every vagina has a scent. Don’t worry about it! (Unless something seems wrong, then go get it checked out! No need to feel embarrassed or ashamed.)
- Vaginas come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, flavors. All are beautiful.
- Penises come in all different shapes, sizes, colors, flavors. All are beautiful.
- You don’t need to shave anything if you don’t want to. It’s tooootally not mandatory.
- Sometimes people get butt acne.
- You can have a vagina and want short hair and think dresses are just the worst.
- You can have a penis and want long hair and think dresses are just the best.
- You can wear whatever you want and style your hair however you want.
- You can even think whatever the hell you want.
- People might tell you that you are a girl because you have a vagina. People might tell you that you are a boy because you have a penis. People will tell you what your gender is. But in reality, you don’t have to be that gender. You don’t have to be either of those genders.
- You are what you are and it’s just the worst thing if you try and hide that.
Dear Hateful Anons,
Stop wasting your time messaging me. I delete your messages before I even finish reading them. I will not expose my followers to your hateful words. If you want me to respond to you, message me off anon and I’ll answer back privately. If you’re not interested in engaging me without hiding behind the anon option, kindly fuck off.